Daydream

Friday daydreaming.

paris

Our neighbor’s (and our friend’s) just got back from Paris. I’ve only been once, but it was such a fun, dreamy, surreal experience. We had so much fun guessing what was on the menu only to find out it was nothing like what we were expecting.  Think lots of squid ink. (Oops.) My little bit of French only took us so far!

If you could go ANYWHERE right now, where would you go?

Ps If you ever find yourself in Avignon, you must eat at Numero 75. The owner of our B&B recommended it. And it was the only place we could find Marc! But the whole experience was perfect. It was our best meal in France.

 

Photo by Blair Morad.

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Inspiration, Series

Introducing a series: Life with incurable cancer.

There are few people in this world who have the privilege of knowing someone since birth. For better or worse, my life has been tied together with Kara’s from the very beginning. It’s now been 30+ years, and I don’t see things changing any time soon.  It is wonderful and lovely to have her in my life.

As you read in the title, I am introducing a series on living with incurable cancer, more ominously known as terminal cancer. Kara has agreed to let me interview her and share her story on Anywhere & Here. The facts are, Kara was first diagnosed with breast cancer at age 29. She went through an incredible litany of treatments, operations and medications. And lo and behold, it worked! For about three and a half years Kara was in remission. And then, the cancer came back with vengeance. It attacked organ and bone. It is living inside her and every day it has the power to remain constant or to grow and spread.  For now she is happy, feeling good and trying to make the most of each day.

I’ll be honest, when I approached Kara with this series, she very politely reminded me that there are numerous forums that exist with these types of stories. But I want to explore Kara’s story specifically.  And I want to share her story because I think there are a good many of us out there who are scared to ask our friends with life altering illnesses certain questions.

So keep an eye out for this series in the coming month or so.  It will be a series of interview-style posts exploring aspects of living with incurable cancer. And we’ll all get to know Kara a bit more, and you’ll discover her incredible strength, determination and downright grit.

PS Kara is organizing her own team for Tour de Pink this year. B & I have decided to join her. This is a three day bike ride from Philadelphia to Washington D.C. If you are interested in supporting the team, please consider a donation. If you’re interested in joining the team, please feel free to contact me. Encouragement and your own personal stories are very welcome too.

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Design

If I had to buy a wedding dress.

We celebrated three years of marriage not too long ago. We dated for just over four years before we were engaged. It’s funny though, it sometimes feels like we’ve been together so much longer than that. We had a great time planning our wedding. The process was almost more fun than the day — almost.

The dress I discovered was from a Boston based shop known for bridesmaid dresses and a smaller, curated collection of wedding designers.  I only went dress shopping there, actually. And the dress I wound up buying was the first one I tried on. I think it was a great dress for me. BUT, if I had to do it over again, I would hands down, without a doubt buy from Whitney Deal. I have followed her collections for the last couple years. They are simple, lovely and elegant. And I share them with most anyone I know who is getting married and won’t mind one more piece of advice regarding the big day.

Aren’t they lovely?

Catherine

Catherine

Lorene dress

Lorene

How about you? Were you in love with your dress? And, I’m curious, did you ever wear it in it’s original or a re-tailored form again?

PS This is my favorite picture of me in my dress.

 

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Baby, Home

Things aren’t the way they were.

Currently it’s all about saving time. It wasn’t always that way. And it won’t always be that way. But with being new parents and new homeowners, I find it quite amazing what we think we can accomplish in any given weekend. I am one of those kooky people who actually really enjoys stopping at three or four small stores rather than one big store. I like knowing the small business owners in my neighborhood. I want to learn how to grow a vegetable garden, maintain my yard, and spend time shopping for that great accent piece for the guest room.

But at the moment, it’s more about maintenance and about how to maximize time with minimum interruptions. This means one of two things. I do things the way I wouldn’t necessarily like to do them.  Or I go without. Both are good lessons in their own rite. But it still leaves me being crabby pants every now and again.

Any tricks you care to share on how to not let the little things get the best of you?

PS Here are a couple time saving ideas:

Have you heard of TaskRabbit? (I’ve mentioned it before.) It’s not shopping, but it’s definitely a time-saving tool for little jobs around the house. I haven’t used it yet, but I’d like to.

And there are more than a few people in the office who’ve signed up for Stitch Fix. A personal shopping service for the rest of us. I’m still going to hold out a bit longer, but it would certainly help brighten my mood. Clothes shopping doesn’t usually see the light of day on my to-do list.

 

 

 

 

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Daydream

Friday daydreaming.

Organization! I think it must be spring. It’s finally sunny after a string of rainy days. That coupled with the fact we’ve been in this new, lovely house for almost a year. Things have settled just a bit, and now all those closets where I just threw things? Well, the things need a bit of organization. And I, being me, want to organize them RIGHT NOW. But patience right? Maybe I’ll tackle one or two of them this weekend.

We’re celebrating the end of a long study period for one of our friends this weekend. I’m hoping for a stiff cocktail and a yummy bite or two.  Here’s hoping you get what you want this weekend. Cheers.

 

PS BrightNest. Do you know this site? A great way to keep up on home tips and maintenance.

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Inspiration

Family. And a tribute to dad.

family

Families are so quirky, aren’t they? No two families are alike, and it’s just plain silly to think they are. Here’s my unsolicited advice for the day: Love the ones your with. I’ve admittedly spent some years thinking that, “If my family would just do X; then I’d be Y.” Y being happy, normal, enjoyable, or a million other things. Have you heard of this before? It’s called the “if, then” syndrome. And it’s really not a fun thing at all to put others or yourself through.

It took me awhile, as an adult, to grow into my family. Weird statement, I know. But it’s necessary as adults to step back and see family in light of who we are and who they are. It’s way too easy to keep chugging along with the rhythms and patterns we all had growing up. My parents are amazing people. They’ve kept this family at the center of all they do, and they are absolutely endless with their love and dedication to their children. The ways that we have recently and continue to come together is both heart-warming and encouraging.

Today is my dad’s birthday, and I wanted to post a small tribute to him. I want to thank you, dad, for loving your family the way you do. You are a strong, compassionate, caretaker. You are a provider and a comforter. I am so happy to walk this earth with you, and I very much look forward to seeing what lies ahead.

Has your family experienced a transformation over the years? I’d love to hear your story.

PS Awkward family photos.

 

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Inspiration

Find your passion.

Everybody wants to know what they are good at, right? I do. And I want it to be what I spend most of my day doing. But how to figure this out? That is the million dollar question. My friend once told me not to worry if I didn’t have the answer to a question right away. She told me my brain is always working on it, even if I’m not. I remember this line from time to time and smile. It’s so true. Whenever I need to figure something out, I find the most creative answers come when I’m least expecting them.  I love that.

I stumbled upon this article the other day, and it really resonated with me. Maybe we can’t figure out what we are “good at” because we’re not asking the right question. How about this one: What are you doing when you feel most beautiful? Or, what are your superpowers?

This is worth reading and, more importantly, digesting. And then maybe forget about it for a little while and let your brain do the work.

Let me know what you think. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

PS The above is from a three-part series. You can read the first post on failing here.

PPS There’s also a book by Warren Berger, if you want more. I think it would make a good gift for someone looking for a career change. Or maybe as a retirement gift?

 

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